Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Just Something I Was Thinking About
I was thinking last night as I was listening to some music before bed about some of the things that I have been through in my life. I see so many people going through divorces these days or they are in relationships they shouldn't be in , or just plain not doing what they should be when it comes to relationships. It really breaks my heart to see so many people get it wrong. Speaking from someone who is divorced and has been single for many years now I can say that I now know what it is God wants for me and I know what I want for myself if I was to ever get into another relationship. It breaks my heart to see so many young girls give themselves away to someone and not value themselves more than that. If a boy wants to be with you he needs to seek after God and what it is God wants for his life and if they truly want a relationship with you then he has to ask your DADDYS permission. You ladies have value and don't let this world fool you into thinking you have to sleep with someone in order for them to love you or that you have to change who you are for someone. I spent alot of years trying to be someone I wasn't for another person and when I finally said enough is enough and sought after God and what he wanted for my life then I finally understood where my wires were crossed so to speak. We get it all wrong when it comes to relationships because of what we see and hear everyday on tv, movies, and the people we surround ourselves with. God should ALWAYS be the center of any relationship you have. I have a close friend who is seperated and lost their family because they didnt keep God the center of the relationship. God meant marriage to be forever not for now and then when things get tough you bail. I know when and if I get married again it will be because God put us together. There should be respect, kindness, willingness to listen, and most of all you should always seek God and what it is he wants for your marriage. Everything we need for a successful marriage is in his WORD. If we keep ourselves full of his word and seek after HIM then we will truly know what it is to have true unconditional love for our partner.
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This rate of divorce is much higher than it was a generation ago. With divorce becoming more prevalent and tolerated, many Christians are confused about what justifies it in the sight of God. Little justifies divorce; outside of infidelity, faith differences between a Christian and a non-Christian spouse, and possibly domestic violence, nothing does....Government policies, greed and selfishness, Infidelity, Domestic Violence, Non-Christian Spouse Chooses to Divorce.
Is it possible for your relationship to survive adultery? Do you believe there is a way to repair the bond that has been broken? Many couples go through this agony every year in these world. Some end in divorce while others carry on and rebuild their relationship. I believe there is a way for healing to occur if both partners are willing to do the work necessary to mend their shattered marriage. If infidelity has occurred in your relationship you probably believe this is the darkest moment of your life, but if you will allow God to shine His light upon you through His Word, He will guide you to the answers you are searching for. Where should you begin?
Consequently, if there is a possibility for reconciliation, why not pursue it? Why miss the opportunity to see your marriage healed and your family restored? Jesus taught that divorce only occurs "because of the hardness of your hearts" (Matt. 19:8). I’ve personally witnessed this hardness in both the heart of the adulterer who has refused to repent from the adulterous relationship, and in the heart of an offended spouse who is refusing to forgive and actively seek reconciliation.
Last, choose to think on the good changes that have occurred since your reconciliation. This again was Paul’s solution while he was in prison after being held for over four years on false charges. Put yourself in Paul’s position. Don’t you think that he might have struggled in his mind over the unjust circumstances occurring in his life? He declared to the Philippian Church how he found peace: "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things" Phil. 4:8). You must make a conscious decision to dwell on the good things that have come about in your relationship with your mate. Choose to meditate on these things, not on the past. This is what it means to look forward. Are you daily dwelling on these thoughts?
In conclusion, may the God of all grace and comfort grant to you the strength and perseverance to work through every issue. Don’t allow the sins of the past to hinder your complete reconciliation. Your marriage and family are truly worth it! Remember the promise that Jesus made to Paul in his hour of struggle: "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness" (2 Cor. 12:9).
Anthony Okamgba
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